Blog Tour and Book Give Away!!!

I am thrilled to be a part of the Blog Tour for the latest book by Mariah Stewart called ‘The Chesapeake Bride’ – Reading an advance copy now and can’t wait to come back and write a review for you all!

In the meantime I wanted to do two things, go ahead and give you a quick description of the new upcoming book as well as let you know about a book giveaway I will be doing for one of her other books! Exciting huh?? 🙂

The Chesapeake Bride
Cassidy Logan has sworn off good-looking adventurers, having just divorced the one she’d married. Now working with her father’s construction company to build ecologically friendly, historically accurate homes on the Chesapeake Bay, she’s designing them for Cannonball Island. Knowing there’s been no new construction on the island in almost one hundred years, Cass is sensitive to the heritage and history of the sparsely populated island and has come up with plans so perfect she’s determined to buy one for herself to live in. Even the fact that Owen Parker—whom she dismisses as a lightweight and a player— seems to be everywhere she goes isn’t enough to deter her from building her dream house.

Owen is and always has been sinfully handsome and wickedly clever, a magnet for mischief as well as the girls in St. Dennis. He’s also a rolling stone, going and doing whatever appeals to him, from flying a mail plane in Alaska to working on a cattle ranch in Australia and a shrimp boat in Louisiana, to surfing and diving in Costa Rica. When an old friend offers him a job salvaging a sunken ship in the Chesapeake, Owen gladly accepts. Something’s been telling him it’s about time to head home to Cannonball Island, and a job is as good an excuse as any. He’s totally smitten with the pretty architect, but it seems he’s finally met a woman who’s immune to his charms. Sooner or later, Owen will have to face the reason why he always runs, because this time, leaving just might be harder than staying.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Mariah Stewart is the award-winning New York Times and USA Today bestselling author of numerous novels and several novellas and short stories. A native of Hightstown, New Jersey, she lives with her husband and two rambunctious rescue dogs amid the rolling hills of Chester County, Pennsylvania, where she savors country life and tends her gardens. Visit her website at mariahstewart.com, like her on Facebook at AuthorMariahStewart, and follow her on Instagram at mariah_stewart_books.

END OF SUMMER GIVEAWAY:
To celebrate The Chesapeake Bride Blog Tour I am giving away one copy of Driftwood Point, 10th in The Chesapeake Diaries Series by Mariah Stewart! U.S. only, please. ENTER THE GIVEAWAY by sending an email to Divatude@yahoo.com with ‘Driftwood Giveaway’ in the subject or post your name and email address in the comments section of the blog post. I will request a valid mailing address if your name is drawn. 

Giveaway Details: Giveaway is open to US Residents age 18 or over only. Final entries must be submitted by Sept 20th, 2017 at 11:59pm Drawing will be pulled on the 21st

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Refuse to Let Go

So many people have lost so much between the flooding Louisiana encountered not long ago to the current devastation of Harvey in both Texas and Louisiana that some may just feel they have nowhere to turn. But one thing has remained consistent, the way we as a people come together.

There has been so much anger and animosity lately that seemed to be predominately based on the color of ones skin. Things have been said, actions have been taken and friendship’s divided. Lets be honest, things seemed to be on a parallel course to disaster with no hope in sight.

Then something like this happens and nothing else matters but helping your fellow man. Everyone comes together to ensure people they don’t even know are safe. I know I’m not the only one brought to tears by the sight of the Louisiana Cajun Navy gearing up and heading out to Texas to help as best they can. Or the emergency responders and civilians alike working tirelessly to help as many people as possible.

All of a sudden strangers are risking their lives to save others from abandoned cars, homes and other dangers. No one cared on either side what the color of anyone’s skin was, just about helping their fellow brothers and sisters.

As everyone continues to try to put one foot in front of the other through this latest natural disaster, can we just do one thing? Refuse to let go. Refuse to let go of the way everyone is coming together right now. That love, hope and strength is so much a part of who we are as a people, regardless of race or religion that it is part of the very fabric of us. It’s something we need to hold on to, something we need to refuse to let hate enter or divide ever again.

About That Compliment

I have a problem with compliments. Always have. No idea why that is. For as long as I can remember when someone starts complimenting anything from looks, work or talents its makes me a little flustered. Mostly I try to change the subject, redirect the conversation or blow it off.

Normal people show appreciation, accept it for what it is and move on. Not me. At some point I have to figure it out. You know, act like an adult. We went away this weekend, as we met people they kept giving me compliments. More than once I didn’t know how to respond so instead, I said nothing. Do you know how that comes off? It comes off rude. Rude as hell! If anything, it appears that you are some stuck up….

Truth is, it goes back to my own insecurities that I have always had growing up. But have you ever noticed if people think you have no reason to be insecure they tend to blow you off when you try to explain what you feel? Its kind of like when someone smaller in size tells you they feel fat and you blow them off because you have soo much more weight to lose than they do. Well just because you don’t think someone should feel a certain way, does not make it so. We are own worst critics. Always.

Maybe the key is to learn to compliment instead of criticize. You know, those conversations we have with ourselves when we look in a mirror, try on a new dress or contemplate a career change. You know, the ones where we always find something wrong. Instead perhaps its time to force positivity only. Instead of letting insecurities impact choices, accept what is happening then go around it with a better attitude.

Its time to force myself out of my own comfort zone. Stop letting insecurities impact the decisions I make. First step? Accept a compliment with a simple Thank You. And Believe it.

Getting It Together

I’m fat. Did I just figure this out? Of course not! I’ve known this for quite some time. Every once in a while, something happens to remind a girl. For me, it was my wedding. I look back at the photos with utter dismay. Don’t get me wrong, I made a beautiful bride. However, I would have loved to look the way I really dreamed of looking on my wedding day. My dress was gorgeous and yet the wrong angles in some photos make me wish I had made another choice.

The rolls, creases and jiggling are endless. Am I sitting in a corner miserable about this? Nope, not at all. On that day, I was happy. Ultimately my wedding was beautiful. Now it’s time to do something about it. There will be several people that say, just love the skin you are in, stop trying to fit into societies version of beauty, etc. etc. Yeah well that’s all fine and good, except – I’m not happy in the skin I’m in. I want more, I know I can achieve more.

First things first. What’s the plan? Well joining a gym was at the top of the list. But instead of a normal gym, we join the gym of all gyms. I’m talking huge. Crowded. Pretty intimidating. Heck this is week four and I only know where certain things are because I’ve been too stubborn to request another tour.

Then there are the tiny little girls in the matching outfits that work out without sounding like they are hacking up a lung. I could trip one of them. But I won’t. Well, don’t push me.

Then there is all the useless research. Do cardio first. No, do weights first then cardio! Trainers are the best choice! No, no classes are the better option! Yeah, yeah. How about for now we just be happy I’m here? Trying. Without using profanity with anyone. Tomorrow is another day.

Stop Waiting to Live!

As girls most of us were raised reading fairy tales where we strive to find our prince charming, once we have him life can begin. Somewhere along the way some of us are forgetting there is a whole life prior to finding the perfect spouse.

There is so much in the world to learn, experience and explore. Yes, finding your mate is important, but so is finding yourself. If you don’t learn and evolve, what are you bringing to the table when you find the perfect one? Suddenly you have nothing to talk about, no experiences to share and quite often no desire to step out of your comfort zone. So yes, you may have great physical chemistry, but believe it or not some men desire more than just sex if they are thinking long term commitment.

How often have you thought about all these things you are going to do? You watched a movie with a bunch of friends taking annual vacations together and got all motivated….for about 5 minutes. You went from all the excitement of imagining it as your crew, to all the reasons it won’t work. Stop thinking about why something can’t work or making excuses to not even try! You want to do something new, then do it. Make a list of all the new things you can do, both alone and with others that takes you out of your comfort zone. Once that list is complete, start making plans. Get people involved, be vocal about what you are doing – gives you less chance of backing out!

Between the day you were born and the day you leave this earth you should be aiming to make as many memories as possible. Stop watching other people on TV, Theaters and Social Media Live the best life they can while you make excuses and wait on a significant other. As I have been telling my friends, my next plan involves regular girl’s trips with them. Why? Because being married should not suddenly stop my connection with my girls. Those things that broaden your horizons and increase your creativity will only improve your relationships with your significant other. Despite what the fairy tales told us as children, your spouse is not solely responsible for your happiness.

What are you doing to step out of your comfort zone and make some new memories? I would love to know! Drop a comment below or hit me up on Twitter @ericaregina71

 

Failure to Launch 

On a day to day basis it may seem that one friend or another is either announcing a new business launch or linking you to their brand new website. Yet another associate has just written a book or started giving motivational seminars. 

Instead of being supportive or just plain happy for them you may find yourself feeling a lot of negative emotions. Perhaps you feel annoyed at being tagged in yet another post or frustrated with their need to share every little thing. 

Instead of assisting in the positive vibe, you indulge in petty gossip, malicious thoughts or worse. You may try to bring them back to reality by telling them everything that can go wrong, or why their new venture is just not going to work. Remember that old saying, if you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all? Perhaps you should use it. 

Sometimes we need to take a good hard look at what is really going on. Why is someone else’s leap of faith putting us on edge? Has it ever occurred to you that deep down your frustration has nothing to do with the other person and it’s really all about you? That step of faith someone else is willing to take may just bother you because of your own failure to launch. 

Stop letting your own fears and insecurities prevent you from jumping. Take a good hard look in the mirror. What are your dreams and goals? How can you achieve them? Instead of feeling angry or frustrated at others for going after what they want in life, it’s time to go after your own! What are you waiting for?

Is he Afraid of Commitment?

We all know the ones, the guys who seem to have it all together: good communicators, romantic, great careers, set life goals, financial responsibility etc. They indicate they are ready for a relationship, the only thing they need to make everything complete. He is ready for a wife, or so he says. As women we have a tendency to jump in with both feet, after all he meets several of the bullet points on some imaginary list in our heads of what we want in a man.In no time we are planning a future right down to the color of the bridesmaid dresses. So what’s the problem? When you start talking about commitment he is tripping over himself trying to avoid actually committing to you and only you. Wait, monogamy? That’s a foreign word to some men.
Suddenly you are questioning yourself, trying to figure out what is wrong with you. Trying to determine why this keeps happening. Have you ever considered that there is nothing wrong with you? While there are several men out here who are legitimately looking for it all. Men who want a woman to form a loving partnership, there are of course men who make us suspicious of the good guys.

Just because a man indicates he wants a commitment or a family does not mean he wants that with you. As a male friend of mine likes to say, some men simply know the game. They know what we want to hear. As he calls it, they play ‘Tea Party’ with us. Simply meaning they feel us out and figure out what it is we are looking for, then they tell us everything we want to hear to accomplish their goal.

Now this is not to say all guys have some secret agenda, which could not be further from the truth. But just like there are some women that can mistreat a man and make him suspicious of everyone after her, there are men who fit that bill as well.

The bottom line is simply to take your time and really get to know someone new. Ask the questions. Let him show you that he is sincere. If he really wants you, if he really wants a commitment he is going to show you. Not through his words but through his actions. As the old folks used to say, when someone shows you who they are, believe them.