Life does not wait until you find the perfect mate. Your life is happening right now, this very minute. Stop missing out on all the things that you want to try, things you want to experience. Deciding to wait to do certain things until you meet some mystery love connection is a risk. What if you never meet this dream person? Or what if it will be 10 years before you really meet your soul mate?
There is an old saying that tomorrow is not promised. Sometimes we have a tendency to believe that we have forever to get it right, to live our lives. The reality is that you just never know what will happen from one moment to the next. If your life ended right this moment; can you honestly say you have made the most of it?
Life begins when you decide it begins, when you decide to embrace it and go after any and everything that moves you. All of those experiences will help you learn more about who you are and what makes you tick. The more you know about yourself only helps you even more when you do meet that potential mate. How can you expect this wonderful person that you are waiting to meet, who has all these amazing qualities to be impressed by you? Someone that does not embrace their own life that does not know who they really are?
Starting today take a moment to start writing a list; a list of all the things you want to try, things you want to experience. From the small challenges to the extravagant. Then start putting in the effort to cross those things off one at a time. Give life 110% so that no matter what; you can say you gave it your all and never let life short change you. When you do meet that special someone, they will be able to join in on some of those experiences perhaps. You deserve to have a life of your own, in or out of a relationship.
As women we sometimes have a bad habit of putting ourselves on the auction block. Trying with everything in us to convince a man we are good enough, worthy of their love.
In the beginning this is a normal part of give and take; both parties trying to show all the attributes they bring to the table. But some of us take it too far. Some women never seem to turn it off; constantly trying to convince someone that they are good enough to be their girlfriend or wife. The question is why?
Instead of constantly trying to sell yourself; live your life. Let that man see you as you are; amazing, exceptional and unique. He should be pursuing you; trying to convince you he is good enough for you, not the other way around. Stop selling yourself short, women were created from man and should be loved, honored and cherished as such, not made to feel like an object on the auction block; know your worth.
For years I have held a lot of anger in for so many things. Even though you had the opportunity to be there throughout my life, you rarely were. I went through life with a sense of envy and resentment for girls who had a father in their lives. Men who took the time to treat them the way they deserved to be treated; the way they deserved to be loved. Giving them the blueprint to follow in life that would enable them to find a man that would treat them the same.
For a very long time, I blamed myself. I thought I was not good enough, pretty enough or thin enough to be worthy of your time and attention. After years of watching your interests in several other women, gambling and multiple children the feelings only intensified. I’m old enough now to know better, but it does not change the long lasting damage that has been done to either my trust in men or my feelings of worthiness.
Those misplaced feelings are like a magnet to men who treat me poorly or seem to have an inability to remain faithful to one woman. Those insecurities are so deep that even when someone means well; my radar is automatically up and assuming the worse.
It’s time to let it all go; it’s time to forgive and move on. Not for you, but for me. Holding on to all that anger and pain have held me captive for far too long. In the long run, it was your loss, not mine. You missed out on getting to know me as I matured into the woman that I am. I have to accept that you are who you are and it’s too late to change that, but maybe, just maybe, it’s not too late for you to get to know and understand the phenomenal woman I am now. In the meantime, it’s time to let it all go and open myself up to all the possibilities of an amazing future where I am definitely good enough.
Took a break away from a lot of my writing recently to reevaluate a few things. When I was writing my relationship column there were rules and guidelines I had to follow that made me feel as if I was in a box, not quite being myself. That thought process helped with the decision to start my blog, a chance to step outside of that box.
Lately I have begun censoring myself again. The only way to really make this work will be to open myself up and give myself, open and uncensored. Is there really any other way to be truthful to yourself?
As women we rarely slow down, much less stop for illness, pain or a bad day. We are mothers, significant others, sisters and overall caregivers. Our job never ends. We may punch out at the end of the day only to start our other job when we get home.
While our jobs may offer sick days, we rarely use them unless we are using them to care for someone else. When it comes to health and fitness, our first thought is that we just don’t have time. But let’s be honest with ourselves. If we can’t take 30 mins to an hour out of a day to work out how can we spare weeks or days when our body starts to shut down? If we ignore the signs our body and spirit gives us, we are only hurting ourselves. At some point it is crucial to stop and evaluate what we need for our own well being. If we don’t take care of ourselves we can’t take care of anyone else.